Stepfather

WASHINGTON -- When the entire Senate is talking about you, it's hard not to listen. Perhaps that's why Monica Lewinsky's family kept C-SPAN blaring from their suite yesterday while the former intern whiled away the hours in her gilded refuge at the Mayflower Hotel.Lewinsky stayed protected from prying eyes behind a heavy almond-colored door while in-house security patrolled her quiet floor at the luxury hotel in downtown Washington. The senators' fervent televised pleas regarding President Clinton's case slipped into the hallway.

My husband is mean to my children (his stepchildren). He leaves them out of everything, and he'll tell them that he is not their father. We also have a young child between the two of us, and he has no problems with her. He says it is because he had a bad childhood and that he wants to change. Does anyone have && any tips?G.K., Dillwyn,Va.While it is not unusual for a stepfather to have problems with his stepchildren, mistreating them is going too far, readers and experts say. Most agree that the man should seek outside help.

A FEW months ago, I wrote a Perspective article about my stepfather's involvement in the liberation of Buchenwald concentration camp. The article ran on May 4 along with several photos taken by my stepfather, Maj. Irving A. Sarot, a U.S. Army doctor.I received numerous phone calls after the article appeared. The first was from a man who said he had served in the U.S. Army and entered Buchenwald three days after it was liberated. The ovens were still warm when my stepfather got to the camp.

The death of a 1-year-old baby who was taken to a city hospital Saturday was ruled a homicide yesterday by the state medical examiner's office, and police said they were questioning family members.Julius Dayquam Curry of the 1100 block of Harlem Ave. died of blunt force trauma, said Dr. David Fowler, who performed the autopsy yesterday. He declined to comment further.Lt. Timothy G. Keel, acting head of the homicide unit, said detectives noticed what appeared to be injuries to the back of the infant's head and a broken tooth.

The first of three men charged in the slaying of a Baltimore teen-ager went on trial yesterday in Anne Arundel Circuit Court, with the defendant's own stepdaughter as the key prosecution witness.Jessica Martin told jurors that she asked her stepfather, Thomas "Eddie" Blake, 39, at an evening family cookout if he knew the whereabouts of Miquel Tavon "Fats" Cauthorne. She said Blake told her that "they had just dropped him off somewhere."But in fact, Cauthorne, 16, of the 3600 block of W. Bay Ave. was lying in a ditch along secluded Shot Town Road in Arnold after being shot repeatedly, including once in the back of the head.

A 21-year-old Jessup man is being held without bail in the Howard County Detention Center on charges of stabbing his stepfather during the weekend.Howard County police arrested Montel Demain Gross in the 8300 block of Ashwood Court and charged him with first-degree assault after the Saturday night stabbing.Police said Gross got into an argument with his stepfather, Benjamin Thomas, 41, who lives at the same address, when Thomas accused Gross of not paying rent.According to a police report, Gross repeatedly stabbed Thomas the lower chest and right hand.

Marine Cpl. Andre D. Boone, who was shot to death at his family's Howard County home Friday, had a bright future in the Marine Corps and had recently earned a coveted post as a noncommissioned officer assigned to the White House.Boone's stepfather, James M. Harding Jr., 39, was arrested and charged with first-degree murder after the shooting, which took place in Harding's home on Goodin Circle in Columbia.It was Howard's first homicide this year, county police said.Harding is a former Maryland state trooper who was "found to have violated administrative policies and state criminal laws" and was fired in June 1994 after 18 months on the job, said Capt.

A Baltimore patrolman who reluctantly served as a lookout for a deadly arson-for-hire ring after he was recruited by his stepfather, also a city officer, was sentenced to 15 months behind bars yesterday -- less time than prosecutors and even his own attorney had requested.Chief U.S. District Judge J. Frederick Motz said the case involved special circumstances because of the terrible position Ian Budny had been placed in by his stepfather, which the judge said prompted him to hand down the relatively light prison term in federal court in Baltimore.

TODAY is Yom Hashoah, the day set aside each year in the memory of the 6 million Jews killed by the Nazis during the Holocaust. n n n n nIt's been 52 years since the extermination camps were liberated in the spring of 1945 as the war in Europe was ending. Over the years, many witnesses to the Holocaust, including survivors and liberators of the camps, have died and the others are growing old. With each passing year, there are fewer people to give firsthand accounts of atrocities and fewer voices to counter the hate-mongers who say the Holocaust did not happen or the death count is exaggerated.

I recently married a woman with 10- and 12-year-old daughters, and I need to know how to win their respect and love. Does anybody out there know how to do it?W.E., Opa-locka, Fla.It can easily take up to three years for a stepfather to truly bond with his new family, says James H. Bray, a family-medicine professor at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, who has tracked 200 stepfamilies since the mid-1980s.The older the children, the longer the bonding takes, adds Emily B. Visher, of Lafayette, Calif.

Chris Tillman wanted more eggs for breakfast but couldn't communicate the thought from his high chair. So he grabbed an orange and flung it across the kitchen, hitting his grandmother flush in the back of the head. Tillman wasn't quite 2, yet he had thrown his first strike. "He's got an arm," joked Tillman's stepfather, David Sterrenburg. "Even then." The orange-tossing incident goes down in family lore as the first time Tillman's right arm drew attention. Nearly two decades later, it still is turning heads.

Suddenly on April 3, 2009, KEITH T. GROSS, age 34; beloved son of Charles Gross and Debbie Waggy. Also survived by one daughter, Courtney Castro, stepfather Henry Waggy, one sister Heather Waggy, and three brothers, Charles, Christopher, and James Gross. Friends may call on Wednesday from 3 to 5 and 7 to 9 P.M. at the family owned BRADLEY-ASHTON FUNERAL HOME, P.A. Interment private.

Soon after he turned 18, Charles Yi Barnett told his mother he wanted to join the Army. "I said 'No, you're not going anywhere,' " said his mother, Ipun "Yvonne" Dashiell. She forced one military recruiter to leave her home, but the teenager was determined to enlist. He left for basic training almost exactly a year ago, and in May he was sent to Iraq. Late Thursday, military officials went to his mother and stepfather's Bel Air home with grim news: The 19-year-old had died that day of injuries he received in Tallil in a noncombat incident.

A 27-year-old Anne Arundel County man pleaded guilty yesterday to fatally shooting his mother and attempting to kill his stepfather in 2006, but he was found not criminally responsible, the state's equivalent of an insanity defense. Zachary T. Neiman was delusional and had been hearing voices in the weeks leading up to the July 8, 2006, murder of his mother, Rae Bajus, 53, at their Pasadena home, said prosecutor Pamela Alban at a hearing in county Circuit Court before Judge Paul A. Hackner.

When Sgt. Ryan P. Baumann told his family five years ago that he wanted to join the Army, relatives say they knew it was coming. Sergeant Baumann spent eight years of his childhood in Germany, where he picked up a foreign language and learned the ins and outs of Army life. "Ryan grew up around the miliary," said his mother, Cindy Lohman, who worked as a civilian nurse on a base in Germany. "It didn't surprise me. His heroes were guys in the 82nd [Airborne Division]. And he was a post 9-11 child, so he felt very committed to doing something to protect this country."

On July 16, 2008, DEBORAH D.; beloved daughter of James Matthew Lee. She is also survived by her mother Audrey Blake, stepfather Frank Blake, aunt, uncles, cousins, other relatives and friends. Friends may call at the family owned Howell Funeral Home, P.A., 4600 Liberty Heights Avenue, on Sunday, 1 to 5 P.M. Family will receive friends at the chapel on Monday, 11 to 11:30 A.M. with funeral services immediately following.

Even a baseball novice could've told you which high school pitcher would make the majors. At a lean 6 feet 4 with a fastball that crossed 95 mph and uncommon poise for a teenager, McDonogh's Brandon Erbe could have been cast by Hollywood as a young Jim Palmer. Chorye Spoone? Well, the player from Northeast High was a chunky kid with an unruly temper whose fastball topped out at 87 mph. But a funny thing has happened since the two local pitchers were picked by their hometown Orioles in the 2005 draft.

On April 6, 2008, JAMES R. PLAINE, stepfather of James Scharf and Kathleen Scharf of Essex. No funeral or memorial service will take place.

On February 8, 2008, JOHN C. SEIFERT, companion of Geraldine Hall, father of Terry Scott and Cathy Jorgenson, stepfather of Vickie Gentry, grandfather of four, brother of Billy Seifert and Barbara Gemmel. Visitation was held on Tuesday 3 to 5 and 7 to 9 at Gonce Funeral Services, P.A. A funeral service will be held Wednesday at 1pm. Interment Maryland Veterans Cemetery, Crownsville.

Now with his Savior, Jesus Christ, Wallace Wilson "Walley" Stuart, Jr., born November 23, 1946, in Baltimore, MD, passed away at WMHS - Braddock Campus Friday evening, August 10, 2007. Walley was a 1964 graduate of Overlea High School, Baltimore, and in 1967 was honorably discharged from the U.S. Army after completing his stint in Korea. He served a five-year apprenticeship, then becoming a journeyman steamfitter with Plumbers & Steamfitters Local Union 486 until his retirement in 1993.