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Growing up as a mixed-race kid in Chicago and in his father's native Nigeria, where he really stood out, Brendon Ayanbadejo became attuned to issues of identity from a very young age.
By his midteens, while living with his family in a dorm for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students at the University of California, Santa Cruz — his step-father was the dorm's headmaster — he thought no differently about LGBT people than he did straight people.
"I learned people are just people," the former Baltimore Ravens linebacker said.
Ayanbadejo, now 37, has turned those early lessons into an expanding role as a gay-rights activist. After first announcing his public support for same-sex marriage in 2009 — rare and groundbreaking for a sports star at the time — he has continued his advocacy through the Ravens Super Bowl victory last season and beyond.
"It's just one of the pieces of me," Ayanbadejo said, when asked about his commitment to the cause since retiring from football. "It's just something I do. It doesn't take up all of my time, but it's something I live and breathe."
The straight, married entrepreneur with two kids and a second career as a sports analyst frequently finds time to take stages around the country, speaking to young students about bullying or to corporate executives about equality.
He's also helping to craft a campaign for Athlete Ally, a nonprofit focused on ending discrimination against homosexuals in sports, ahead of the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia, where an anti-gay propaganda law has drawn widespread attention.
Ayanbadejo appeared this month before a couple of hundred students at McDaniel College in Westminster to talk about knowing gay people all his life and wishing that the NFL would take more of a stand for LGBT rights.
The NFL is "not lollygagging, but they're kind of hesitant to pull the trigger" to really stamp out discrimination, he told the crowd. "I'd like to see them do more."
Robert Gulliver, the league's chief human resources officer, said in a statement that the league has already stepped up anti-discrimination efforts, impressing last spring on all general managers and head coaches the importance of diversity, including the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, and incorporating those ideas into rookie training.
The NFL has "proactively formed partnerships with LGBT organizations in active dialogue on LGBT diversity," Gulliver said.
Many credit Ayanbadejo for his early advocacy on a still semi-taboo subject — after all, NBA player Jason Collins just became the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport in April.
"He took this stance before the topic really became any kind of controversy, before the Jason Collinses of the world came out and said they are openly gay," said Anthony Fernandez, a sports marketing and branding consultant who has worked with Ayanbadejo in the past. "The key is having authenticity behind that, and he's shown that authenticity by continuing to make it a point to talk about these topics."
Outspoken, and with commanding stage presence, Ayanbadejo is on a circuit of speakers hired to talk about LGBT equality in sports. The three-time Pro Bowl selection has spoken at places including Harvard University, ESPN and Google.
Longtime Baltimore sports agent Ron Shapiro said such honorariums for top-flight athletes can be as much as as $10,000, but that's "the exception, not the rule." Far more often, he said, honorariums cover only transportation and hotel costs.
Fernandez, who does work with AthletePromotions, a sports celebrity marketing and booking agency, said the demand for athletes who can speak to LGBT issues "has probably quadrupled" in the past year.
Still, Ayanbadejo has never been about the money and doesn't always require a fee, he said. "His fee is incredibly reasonable compared to what we have seen for athletes of his level of demand, which is incredibly unusual," Fernandez said. "He just wants to spread his message as wide as possible."
Jennifer Jimenez Marana, McDaniel's new director of diversity and multicultural affairs, said bringing Ayanbadejo to the campus not only dovetailed with a new "inclusive language" campaign her office is launching to cut down on derogatory language on the campus, but also was "a great way to attract students who would not usually come to a diversity-oriented event."
At McDaniel, which has an undergraduate enrollment of 1,600, Ayanbadejo told the students in Alumni Hall he doesn't consider himself an "advocate" as much as a "concerned citizen" — someone with no agenda other than to make the world a better place, including for his own kids. He used the phrase "the three-letter F-word" for a gay slur.