In my quest to have a unique wedding, I learned how similar I was to everyone else. According to a recent survey conducted by TheKnot.com and The Advocate. I am among the many same-sex couples who are more likely to pay for their own wedding (86%), evenly split wedding planning duties (55%) and keep their given surnames post-nuptials (62%) when compared to different-sex couples.The survey continues with more statistical differences between same-sex and different-sex couples. Different-sex couples more likely host pre-wedding events, like a wedding shower (22%) or a bachelor/bachelorette parties (25%) as opposed to same-sex couples, who were more likely to hold post-wedding gatherings, like an after-party or a morning-after brunch (which would be totally awesome, but I doubt I’ll get a good turnout on a Monday).
Interestingly, there are some traditions that continue regardless of orientation. Majorities of both couples have an engagement proposal of some sort, even though there is a large minority of same-sex couples who “just decide” to get married (40%). This makes sense considering the novelty of same-sex civil marriage. Asking on bended knee may be superfluous for a couple who have been together for decades and are already operating jointly as a household. Then again, having someone formally ask is a doting gesture (and I certainly wanted it).