Young veterans easing back into life after war

This Veterans Day a new generation of vets finds a country that appreciates their service, doesn't always understand it

  • Joseph Bathgate, left, of Dundalk, shares a laugh with fellow former USMC member Josh Bortell while hanging out at Towson University's Veterans Center.
Joseph Bathgate, left, of Dundalk, shares a laugh with fellow… (Kenneth K. Lam, Baltimore…)
November 10, 2012|By Matthew Hay Brown, The Baltimore Sun

Joseph Bathgate calls them "the Hollywood questions."

When college classmates learn he was a machine gunner for the Marine Corps for two tours in Iraq, they want to know: Did anyone ever shoot at you? Ever get hit?

And there's the big one.

You ever kill anyone?

"It's unusual, I understand that, what I've done," says Bathgate, 24, of Dundalk, now out of the military and studying kinesiology at Towson University. "Still, it's annoying. … Naturally, I feel different" from the other, mostly younger students on campus.

It's a feeling shared by many. More than a decade of war has minted a new generation of veterans: Two and a half million Americans have served in Iraq or Afghanistan since Sept. 11, 2001.

The challenges now confronting some of them are well-documented: limbs lost, post-traumatic stress disorder and traumatic brain injury; an unemployment rate greater than the national average; an alarming incidence of suicide.

But others describe a more subtle challenge: the difficulty of returning to civilian life in a society that generally appreciates their service — but doesn't always understand it.

While most of the nation's young men served during World War II, and the United States maintained a draft that drew broadly from the country for the conflicts in Korea and Vietnam, military service now is increasingly the province of a shrinking minority of Americans. The number who have been to war in the last decade amounts to less than 1 percent of the U.S. population.

"It's isolating," says Patrick Young, the coordinator of veterans services at Towson. "There's a disconnect between people serving in the military and the civilian populace that benefits from their service.

"It's not necessarily a bad thing," says Young, 29, a former Marine who deployed twice to Iraq. "It's just the reality. … Where in World War II you had a majority of people who had gone through some of the same experiences, or at least was forced to put their lives on hold for an effort that everybody thought was righteous, now you come back, and [some people] who haven't served assume you're crazy or think you have some sort of mental disorder."

Richard Tarlton, the student coordinator for the Vets2Vets program at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, says most civilians are "very, very kind."

"They thank you for your service," says Tarlton, 24, a former Marine artillery scout observer who served two tours in Afghanistan. "They're very polite. But then every once in a while you get the nut case who calls you a baby-killer.

"I would say it's rare, honestly. Now, I have met some veterans who say they get that more than the compliments. And I have no idea where they could possibly live at where that happens. But I would like to pay them a visit."

More common, veterans say, are the moments when cultures clash — when the blunt talk or the black humor that are common in the military horrify a listener who never served.

"You're used to talking one language in the military," says Howard Denney, 36, who remains a Marine reservist after two deployments to Iraq. "Then you try to go back into the civilian world, where a simple joke that you think everybody would get, the civilians don't get."

"People know you've been in the military because of the way you handle yourself," Young says. "They say, 'I could tell, because of how direct you are.'"

The reactions of civilians aren't the only challenges that await returning veterans. Several speak of the difficulty adjusting to the freedom of civilian life, after the discipline and structure of the military.

For the first three months after Young left the Marines, he says, "I was just drinking my face off and watching TV."

"You just didn't have a mission anymore," he says. When you're still in uniform, he says, "you think about getting out and getting away from this micromanaging system that takes away from your freedom. But when you finally have that freedom back, it's overwhelming.

"That's the nature of growing up, I think. It's just that for military people, you have that system of people telling you what you need to do, telling you where you're supposed to be. And then when it's thrown back to you, you're kind of like, 'What do I do now?'"

Young eventually figured it out. He graduated from Towson with a triple major in political science, religious studies and philosophy, with a minor in theater. He now works full-time on campus as the veterans services coordinator.

Erin Byers found a way to settle back into civilian life. After leaving the Army last year, the Frederick woman landed a fellowship with The Mission Continues, an organization that directs veterans in community service projects.

She recently completed her fellowship working with the Veteran Artist Program, a Baltimore-based organization that supports veterans in their artistic pursuits and productions.

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