GenderStrategy: Career advancement shouldn't be a catfight

Women at work

  • Trent Kittleman's book, "Why Must There Be Dragons? Empowering Women to Master Their Careers Without Changing Men," uses cats and dogs as characters to illustrate how women and men communicate differently in the workplace.
Trent Kittleman's book, "Why Must There Be Dragons?… (illustration by Lauren…)
April 04, 2012|By Lisa Kawata

After years navigating the office politics of both big business and government, Trent Kittleman had seen her share of women sidelined for promotions in favor of their male counterparts. It niggled at her, because by 2002, while she was working as minority counsel for U.S. Sen. Fred Thompson, she knew that women had come a very long way in achieving professional recognition. Still, there were pitifully few in senior executive positions.

“I didn’t like seeing women unhappy at work,” says Kittleman. “I learned by doing it wrong. I literally wanted to help women understand what was going on.”

She called her good friend Joan Athen, a serial entrepreneur who fought her own battles in industries typically male-dominated, to mull it over. Could they break the code for women across the country to step through that glass ceiling they’d been peering into so long in their rise to the top?

They believe so, and in 2007 the long-time Howard County residents formed a company, GenderStrategy, with another friend from northern Virginia, Marie Royce, managing director of Global Strategic Initiatives for Alcatel-Lucent, to tackle the problem. Between them, they have more than 100 years of business experience. By 2008, with Athen and Royce as contributing editors, Kittleman wrote “Why Must There Be Dragons? Empowering Women to Master Their Careers Without Changing Men.” The book’s bottom line is communication, and its goal is to help women and men learn how each other pursues goals in the boardroom and the small adjustments one must make to be recognized for executive material when just doing a good job isn’t good enough. 

What makes the book unique is that Kittleman unveils typical human problems in the workplace through a 31st-century allegory when dogs and cats rule the world. 

Boardroom animals

The scene is Feline Foods, and the characters are the dogs that run the company and the cats that are threatening a lawsuit for not getting promoted. It’s called “discatination.” CEO Bernie Rottweiler hires Kathryn Woo, a training specialist, to determine the problem and fix it for the cats (and smooth things over with his board of directors). Kat is assigned to work with Ryan Wolfhound (Wolfe), executive vice president of Special Projects and Bernie’s right-hand man. He’s skeptical but open. After a few discussions, Wolfe lays out his view of the problem.

“It’s just that first canines are told we’re guilty of discatination because we haven’t been treating felines like canines, so we make every effort to be sure both species are treated exactly alike,” the book reads. “And now you come in here and tell me that we’re guilty of discatination because we’re not recognizing the differences! I don’t know what we’re supposed to do anymore.”


Readers follow the employees at Feline Foods as Woo leads them on a discovery of how each “gender” thinks and communicates and how to embrace their differences so that no one is passed over for promotion. The book is divided into three sections: early, middle and peak years of one’s career. Lessons are shared and rules are given, such as “Everything you wear sends a message,” “For career success, pick a great boss over a great job,” and “Sit with power, near power.”

Joyce Pope, former judge of the Orphans Court in Howard County, picked up a copy of the book when Kittleman was handing it out during her campaign for county executive two years ago. Since then, she has bought copies to give to her grown children and others in her family, including students.

“It reinforced strong feelings I’ve had about things and have counseled my kids about,” says the Fulton resident. “Things like dressing appropriately and knowing what your boss is looking for. It’s all about leveling the playing field, not competing … but forming partnerships,” says Pope.

Duane Carey, president of Impact Marketing and Public Relations in Columbia, read the book prior to its publication, and while he knows plenty of women executives, he has seen the differences in how they communicate with their male counterparts.

“I thought it was an honest representation of men and women,” he says of the book. “Men are more likely to speak up around the board table, and women are more quiet and soak it all in before speaking up. Men are more apt to just throw it out there and see if it sticks.”

Boasting vs. hedging

As Kittleman explored the validity of these communication styles, she queried her male counterparts in Washington, and did so later when she joined Gov. Robert Ehrlich’s administration as deputy secretary of the Maryland Department of Transportation and then later became CEO of the Maryland Transportation Authority.

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