Letters to the Editor

Letters to the Editor

September 05, 2004

Ladies, gentlemen hard to find today

Remember the good, old days when a young man would open a car door for a young lady or walk on the curbside when walking with a female? What about allowing the woman to sit first at a table or get up when a woman entered the room? What about the one thing that a young man would never, ever think of doing in front of a woman? Unfortunately, I believe that today that kind of respect for a woman is dead in the water.

Nothing gets me more frustrated with the male gender today than when I am out walking in a mall, store, or even on a sidewalk and approaching a group of mixed teens. I am just flabbergasted at the language that these young people use. I hear the ultimate curse word spoken in almost every sentence.

Not only do the boys throw it out, but also the girls catch it and toss it back at them as if it were a word such as "hello."

The music diva Aretha Franklin said it all: "All I want is a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T." As a father of five daughters and brother of five sisters, I was raised to respect the female ... any female! I was taught that the female is worthy of honor.

I wonder, though, how a young man can respect a woman who doesn't respect herself. To get the respect she deserves, a woman must have pride in herself above all. What it boils down to is the fact that she must demand respect. To do that, she must show that she is a lady. When raising my daughters, I always told them, "Every guy out there is going to know you're a woman. It's up to you to prove to him that you're a lady."

To the young men out there I must say this: Choose a female whom you have great respect for and you will never regret it. Let your tongue not speak evil or curse in front of her or among your friends. Remember, you, too, must have respect for yourself. Profanity, drinking, and drugs will not win friends or friendship. Respect for each other does.

That seven-letter word can change lives overnight. To the guys out there I say treat your lady like a queen. Treat her like a lady. She deserves it. Get out of the car and open the door for her. Pull a chair out for her at a restaurant. Be a rare commodity today ... a gentleman. To the females out there I say demand respect from him. If he doesn't want to give it to you, then maybe he is not the right one for you.

When my family and I are out in a store, mall or street and we hear you using foul language like you have just crawled out of a sewer, watch out because you can bet your bottom dollar I am going to confront you. You may not like it, but neither do I.

Respect yourself and bring back some dignity to dating and relationships between the opposite sexes. Treat your queen like a queen and your king like a king. You will never regret it. In fact, you just may enjoy it.

Bill Hall


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