Jolie's way of life gives new meaning to `play date'

March 16, 2004|By Susan Reimer

BEING THE single mom of a toddler, actress Angelina Jolie said in an interview last week, leaves her so little time for dating that she simply books a hotel room and schedules a male friend for sex.

Her interview in the New York Post last week has left America slack-jawed - and thousands of men wondering how they can get to be friends with Angelina Jolie.

Not to mention the many mothers of toddlers who thought their own option was to meet a girlfriend at the playground.

"I went for about two years with absolutely no man around me and then decided to get closer to men who were already very close friends of mine," Jolie told reporter Megan Lehmann while promoting her new movie, Taking Lives.

"As crazy as it sounds, meeting a man in a hotel room for a few hours and then going back and putting my son to bed and not seeing that man again for a few months is about what I can handle now," said Jolie.

My friends and I did that, too, when our kids were small. But the men were usually our husbands, and the best part was not going back home and putting our kids to bed. We called it a weekend getaway, and we let the sitter fight the bedtime battles.

It just shows we had no imagination.

Instead of Mommy & Me play dates, we could have been scheduling an afternoon at the local Motel 6 with someone we would have liked to get closer to. Trouble is, while Jolie catalogs friends, we'd probably have booked a long nap.

If that's what she does between rounds with a toddler, the girl has energy to burn.

I'm thinking, too, that hoteliers are smacking their foreheads. Free babysitting! What a promotional concept! Make it enough like Chucky Cheese, and the kids won't even realize mom has left the room.

Jolie, who won an Academy Award for Girl, Interrupted, does not consider these one-night (or one-afternoon) stands. "These are people that I know very well," she says.

This is clearly very different from the kinds of hotel room assignations confessed to by First Brother Neil Bush, who admitted during divorce proceedings that he had sex with women he did not know while in Thailand and Hong Kong on business. He said they just came to his door.

(When your children ask you the difference between conservatives and liberals, this might be one illustration you can use.)

Said Jolie, "I can feel like a woman and get close to a man but it's not a relationship that interferes with my family."

That means 3-year-old Maddox, the boy she adopted while filming in Cambodia, won't be accidentally walking in on Mom and Mr. Wednesday Between 2 and 4.

Isn't it just like Hollywood to make Rolodex sex part of the cultural conversation?

What is this supposed to be? Another definition of family? On the bookstore shelf next to Heather Has Two Mommies, you will soon find My Mommy and Whoever Picks Up His Nextel First?

Give this young mom credit. She's opened up vast new scheduling possibilities for the busy mother - not to mention the dad, who can't seem to get mom's attention over the decibel level of family life.

As the teen-agers say, "Get a room!"

Just make sure it is with each other.

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