Ski trip leads to trip down aisle


Amy Kapper And Marty Passen

November 18, 2001|By Sandy Alexander | By Sandy Alexander,Sun Staff

Amy Kapper and Marty Passen say they went on a National Jewish Singles ski trip in January 2000 for the skiing, not the singles. But a chance meeting at dinner the first night quickly led to romance.

"The reason I went was because they were going to Jackson Hole," says Marty who knew people from Baltimore who were planning to go to the Wyoming resort.

Amy and a friend were also looking for a fun vacation. After Amy turned down an invitation to go to Paris with her family and both women changed their minds about a trip to Austria, the idea of skiing in Wyoming appealed to them. Amy says their attitude was, "If we meet other people, that's great."

When there was no room for Marty to sit with his friends at dinner that first night, he ended up across from Amy. They met again at happy hour the next night, and then for skiing the next day.

"It just kind of picked up from there," he says.

In a matter of days, Amy adds, "We were just kind of boyfriend / girlfriend."

At the time, Amy, who grew up in Dix Hills, N.Y., lived in New York City. Marty, who grew up in Lutherville and attended the University of Maryland School of Medicine, lived in Baltimore. But they didn't let distance get in their way.

On Wednesday of their first week back, Marty took a train to New York for a dinner date. That weekend, Amy visited Baltimore where a mutual friend from the ski trip was having a Super Bowl party.

For the next year and a half, they traded trips between the two cities and took several ski vacations to Utah. Long-distance relationships had been unappealing in the past, says Amy, "but this was a piece of cake."

As their relationship progressed, there was another hurdle to overcome. Marty jokingly told Amy that before he could get married, "One, the Ravens had to win the Super Bowl and two, I had to shoot 75 or less in golf, two things which I figured never could happen."

They were in Tampa to see the Ravens win the championship last January, and Marty decided his golf goal could wait, but love could not. In February, they returned to his Canton apartment after a party and he sang John Denver's "For You," asking Amy to marry him.

"I was really surprised," she says.

In the spring Amy, 29, received her master's degree in business administration from Fordham University in New York, and in July she moved to Baltimore. She had to leave friends and a job she enjoyed as marketing manager at Entertainment Weekly, but she wanted to have more time with Marty, 36.

On Nov. 3, Amy and Marty were married in a Jewish ceremony at the Sheraton Inner Harbor. The wedding party included 22 friends and family members. Amy was escorted to the huppah, a traditional Jewish wedding canopy, by her parents, Lloyd and Maryann Kapper, and Marty was escorted by his parents, Selvin and Sylvia Passen. Marty's aunt, Florence Lilt, sang "Sunrise, Sunset."

At the reception, guests enjoyed dinner and music, and received periodic updates on Game Six of the World Series.

After a honeymoon in Hawaii, the couple plans to stay in the Baltimore area. Marty, an internist, has a private practice in Owings Mills. Amy is a marketing consultant for Cingular Wireless.

As they begin married life, both say an important element of their relationship is that they have fun together. Amy says Marty is "so sweet and caring and funny and easy to be with." Marty says, "She has a great sense of humor. ... We have a lot in common."

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