Son, 10, still wants to sleep with parent Q. My 10 1/2...


September 09, 2001|By T. Berry Brazelton, M.D. | T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.,NEW YORK TIMES SPECIAL FEATURES

Son, 10, still wants to sleep with parent

Q. My 10 1/2 -year-old son still needs me to sleep with him at night. He tells me he's afraid of robbers breaking into the house, even though we have a security system. He's very sensitive and worries about everything he hears on the news. He won't even ride his bike outside unless I'm out to watch him.

What's your thinking on this?

A. I think your son is too old for these fears and for this kind of dependency. At 4 and 5 this behavior was normal, but now it's not.

Can you get him evaluated by a child psychiatrist or psychologist who can help him learn to separate from you and help you learn to let him become more self-confident? You may have to face the fact that you are nurturing this dependency.

Address questions to Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, care of the New York Times Syndication Sales Corp., 122 E. 42nd St., New York, N.Y. 10168. Questions of general interest will be answered in this column; unpublished letters cannot be answered individually.

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