Instead of more soccer moms, how about some scholar moms

November 01, 1999|By Suzanne Fields

AMERICAN children who aren't exactly 8 o'clock scholars often rate themselves as better students than they really are. They don't know enough to know what they don't know.

It now turns out that many parents do that, too. In a study of several hundred mothers from the United States, Japan and China about the school performance of their children in the fifth grade, more than half of the American mothers announced that they were "very satisfied" with their children's schoolwork.

But not true in Asia. Only 5 percent of the Japanese and Chinese mothers came to that conclusion, although they were more or less entitled to, because their kids scored far above the Americans.

Adding insult to ignorance, the American mothers blamed their children's "nature" for poor performance, an inborn inability to do better. Asian mothers said their children didn't work hard enough.

Tom Loveless, director of the Brown Center on Education Policy, calls this the parent trap, with many parents part of the problem rather than the solution.

The trap is a trap door many parents fall through. "[Reformers] assume that parents will do whatever is necessary to raise children's levels of achievement," he writes in the Wilson Quarterly, which is published by the Woodrow Wilson International Center for Scholars in Washington. "But will they?"

Aiming low

Well-meaning parents who say they believe in school reform are often unwilling to make the trade-offs necessary for their children to do better. In 1996, for example, the Gallup Poll asked this question: "Which one of the following would you prefer of an oldest child -- that the child get A grades or that he or she make average grades and be active in extracurricular activities?"

Only 33 percent of the public-school parents preferred A grades; 56 percent favored a more "well-rounded" kid with average grades. If you think the answer is different for parents of children in private schools, you're wrong.

That breakdown was almost the same, 34 percent opted for the A student and 55 percent chose average grades, as long as their child could be a jock, cheerleader or even student council leader.

Most parents criticize American schools in the abstract, but not their children's schools. If this attitude is a rationalization, it's one that's hard to change.

Busy parents like to think if their schools are good, they can leave the teaching to the teachers. But they're failing their children. No matter how good a teacher may be, parents who don't pay critical attention to what their children are learning in school, and how they spend time after school, contribute to lower academic standards.

Laurence Steinberg, a psychologist at Temple University, studied how U.S. teens spend their time after school every week. The break down is depressing: 10 to 15 hours in sports, 15 to 20 hours working, 20 to 25 hours for social activities. The booby prize goes to homework: The national average is four hours.

Of course, education is likely to be the hottest issue in next year's presidential campaign. In the most universal sense, educational policy is political. It determines what the next generation of children will learn and how they will think and act.

The Socratic notion of the crucial need to "know thyself" is about education, understanding "thyself" in relation to "facts" about the universe.

Today, however, it's often interpreted as a narcissistic exercise. Schools become "therapeutic" environments, inflating grades and egos on behalf of encouraging a child's self-esteem, rather than the genuine and justified self-esteem that flows from acquiring knowledge and skills.

What to do? We hear a lot about "soccer moms." How about "scholar moms" (and dads) becoming a political force? They could help their children with their studies and get the attention of the politicians at the same time. There's more than one way to cross the bridge to the 21st century's reformed education.

Parents must beware the trap doors.

Suzanne Fields is a syndicated columnist.

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