Lighting the way toward happiness


July 12, 1998|By Joanne E. Morvay | Joanne E. Morvay,special to the sun

David Drake thought about what he wanted his marriage to be long before he proposed to Kristin Gould.

In February 1993 - three years before he met Kristin - David saw an image he thought was a good metaphor. Driving in Colorado, he passed a well-lighted house. At the bottom of the driveway were two lights that showed the way through the darkness to the RTC top. It struck him as "two lights leading the way to the true light - God," he recalls.

David promised himself he would propose to his future wife - whomever she might be - on that very spot.

In the summer of 1996, David and Kristin were introduced aboard a 100-foot schooner off Martha's Vineyard. Kristin, a science teacher at St. Paul's School for Girls in Brooklandville, accompanied some students to a Christian sailing camp run by the Fellowship of Christians in Universities and Schools (FOCUS). David was one of the camp's directors.

The couple did not date until autumn, when David returned to his regular duties as FOCUS' Washington regional coordinator.

It was a relationship filled with fun. One of their first dates was a whirlwind trip to Chicago to see David's alma mater, Northwestern University, beat the University of Michigan in a nail-biter of a football game. As mentors for middle school and high school students involved in FOCUS, the couple also worked together directing teen sailing camps and ski trips.

In August 1997, back in Colorado on a two-month sabbatical, David returned to the place where he had seen the well-lighted home - only to find it had been replaced by condominiums.

He hit upon a lighthouse as a more fitting marital metaphor. A beacon in times of trouble, a lighthouse dims each day as the sun comes up, David says, explaining that to him this refers not to the sun in the sky, but the Son of God.

On Oct. 4, 1997, David took Kristin for a sunrise breakfast at Great Point Light on Nantucket. Tense and nervous under overcast skies, worried that the weather would ruin his romantic marriage proposal, David played his guitar and sang to Kristin - who was unaware of his intentions. As the lighthouse dimmed and morning dawned, David told Kristin about the well-lighted house and the lighthouse, and his belief - which she shares - that the true light of the world is Jesus Christ.

Then he asked her to be his wife. As she joyfully answered yes, the sun suddenly came out "in all its glory" and basked them in its light, they remember.

When David and Kristin returned to his parents' summer house on the island, he offered the last surprise of the day: There stood his parents, Daniel and Judith Drake of New Canaan, Conn., and her parents, W. Michael and Nancy Gould of Severna Park, waiting with champagne to congratulate them.

On June 27, David and Kristin were married in the chapel at St. Paul's as their parents, 220 guests and about 70 students looked on.

The couple now resides in Boston, where David will continue as FOCUS' regional director there. Kristin is taking a year off from teaching, but plans to work with FOCUS and coach varsity field hockey at a nearby private school.

Their plans fit their long-term agenda for their marriage. "Jesus said, 'You are the light of the world.' We'd like to have Christ shine through our lives," David says. "We hope to find a ministry together."

Pub Date: 7/12/98

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