Although Vivian McDonnell has commemorated more than 30 Mother's Days, today may generate the most significant memories of all. Today she will celebrate what her husband Sean calls "the miracle" of her motherhood. It is her first holiday as the mother of Sean, Cole and Harper McDonnell.
"Nor did I have the man that I wanted to raise them with."
Managing day to day
In the family room of the McDonnells' comfortable Bel Air home, thoughts of high-tech biology and ethics committees quickly fade. What is arguable in the abstract seems insignificant as two people care for three babies and try to pay attention to the dog.
Sean, Cole and Harper still spend most of their time in a sunny nursery trimmed with aqua and purple and decorated with the best wishes of the 20 or so cousins they have yet to meet.
Vivian and Sean have equally split their work and child care: He works at his job as a mortgage banker on Monday, Wednesday and Friday; she works at home at her accounting business on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. They also split night duty.
Relatives and friends often drop by to assist. Piper took a week off from work in Oklahoma to help out and will visit again next month for the babies' christening. The McDonnells will mark their third anniversary a few days later.
They have much to celebrate.
"When people go through hard times, they always tend to ask, 'Why me, God?' " Vivian says. "I asked that question when I lost my son. I just felt that I would never ever have a life again that would be happy. And then to have things turn around so completely 10 years later! Now I ask, 'How come everything's so good?' "
Pub Date: 5/12/96