Adoption a Good Way to Build a FamilyAt 5:45 in the...


July 02, 1995

Adoption a Good Way to Build a Family

At 5:45 in the morning, I thought to myself, "Why do I bother to set my alarm?" You see, we have a 22-month-old son who wakes up about 45 minutes earlier than what we think is a civilized time to rise. We quickly give in when our 5 1/2 -year-old daughter chimes in.

At 7:30, I decide to feed our little alarm clock breakfast (in case there might be a moment when he has no energy).

I place him on my lap at the table, hoping he will eat peacefully while I scan The Sun. I stop scanning when I find the column by Patrick Ercolano, "The Adoption Option" (June 10).

As I read the piece, I become acutely aware of my little bundle on my lap picking the raisins off his toast with one hand and lightly holding my arm with his other hand.

What a moment! I am sitting there quietly nodding with everything Mr. Ercolano is saying and feeling wonderful. As I finish reading the article, I look at my son and he rests his head on my shoulder.

I am in heaven. Then he is down in a flash, ready to explore the world with his sticky hands. You learn to savor those tender moments, as short as they are.

Why am I writing this? Because our son is adopted from Korea and our 5 1/2 -year-old is our biological daughter.

After a few years of trying, we finally gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Nothing can describe the feeling of a human life growing inside you. When she was two years old, we decided to try to have another child. Things didn't go well, and I began to question having a second child.

Then it dawned on me. We can adopt. We went through all the soul-searching that Mr. Ercolano mentioned.

Can we love an adopted child as much as our biological child? How about a child from another country? How will our families and friends react? We, too, agreed that we would go ahead and start the process.

Though we did have to do a lot of soul-searching and paperwork, the process wasn't that bad.

And when my husband got off the plane from Korea (via Detroit) with our son on Jan. 14, 1994, the hassles melted away. (By the way, my husband reported that his 24-hour "delivery" went very well without much pain.)

Our son became legally ours on Jan. 13, 1995, and will soon be a U.S. citizen.

There is no doubt that he is a vital member of our family. Our daughter adores him, and he lights up when he sees her. People do come up to us and say, "What a lucky child he is," and "What a wonderful thing you did."

My response is that we are the lucky ones, and this is definitely the way to build a family.

Andrea H. Smith


Not Anti-Semitic

As a Jew, I would like to respond to the June 21 article, "Jew complains to cardinal over homily heard at mass."

My Catholic family and I are active members of the Cathedral of Mary Our Queen parish. Never have I encountered any anti-Semitism at the cathedral, whether in the sermons, in the education my children have received at the school or in my interaction with the priests or parishioners.

Quite the contrary, I have been welcomed and encouraged to be part of the parish and school activities. My beliefs as a Jew have never been questioned or contradicted.

I find it most unfortunate that Penny Catzen apparently did not speak directly and immediately to the Rev. Heinrich J. Losemann Jr., associate pastor at the cathedral, about her concerns.

Had she done so, I feel confident that she would have found him, as I have, most sensitive and receptive to those concerns. Rarely in my life have I met someone so kind and decent. I therefore must rebut the image of Father Losemann which was implied in your article.

Richard J. Peyton


WJHU Drivel

What follows are some thoughts upon the recent passing of midday classical music on WJHU-FM.

The real incentive for listening to WJHU-FM since 1986 has been its intelligent and informative programming. Also, the public has had the privilege of enjoying such excellent announcers as Lisa Simeone and Bill Spencer. Sadly, that has been denied us by what seems to be a feckless managerial decision.

I have always thought that the usual listener to WJHU-FM tuned in to classical music during the workday to enjoy the soothing and supportive quality programming. Now what we are left with are talk shows that discuss support groups for necrophiliacs or the coming beer crisis in Folkestone, England. Who cares to waste time listening to this drivel? There's more than enough of it on every other station.

I guess the thinking behind this decision was that if you broaden your audience, then you will be in a better position to weather the upcoming loss of federal funds. Wrong. WJHU's audience is not Joe Six Pack and Joe Six Pack will not tune into WJHU . . . just too highbrow. It would make more sense in the long run to keep midday classical music.

Finally, given the often inane and naive comments made by Dennis Kita during fund-raising, WJHU-FM would be better

served to dump its general manager.

Douglas Skeen


School Anxiety

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