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World of Disney teaches girls love conquers all

June 30, 1995|By Susan Stewart | Susan Stewart,Special to The Sun

Like Belle before her, Pocahontas must choose between the raptures of what might be and the stolid reality of what is. Romance vs. realism: This is a beautiful notion, that we are imprisoned by conventional choices and set free by unconventional ones. It's "The Bridges of Madison County" notion.

It's a lovely notion for, say, a 45-year-old trying to decide whether to buy his wife a freezer or a cruise. But for a child who still has trouble with "right" and "left," much less "right" and "wrong," it's confusing. It seems only fair to teach a child how to live in society before you tell her how living according to society's rules will frustrate her.

And it seems equally fair to teach our dreamy young daughters that, while fantasy is fun, there are other dreams besides romantic ones. If these Disney movies do any damage, it is in equating the imagination with romantic fantasy. Imagination is a lore mor than that -- at least for boys. Just once I'd like to see a Disney heroine sing about something besides being swept away by love. If all girls learn of "dreaming" is the Disney version, romance won't just be a choice for them, it will be the whole river.

Susan Stewart is the mother of two daughters, aged 5 and 7. She writes for the Detroit Free Press and Parenting magazine.

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