What About Problem Of Deadbeat Mothers?In reference to the...


January 17, 1993

What About Problem Of Deadbeat Mothers?

In reference to the "Deadbeat Dads" articles in your newspaper, I'm tired of reading all the sorrows of the poor mothers who are not receiving child support or who just want more. In the eyes of the courts, I'm a "Deadbeat Dad" even though I pay $45, plus $11.25 per week to cover the arrearages through payroll deduction. The Bureau of Support Enforcement has nothing better to do but to take me to court for more money for my ex-wife.

My first time in support court was an eye opener. Once in front of the judge, the record showed from support enforcement only went up to the month of October, and here it was Dec. 22, 1992. This showed more than what was really owed. . . .

In the blink of an eye, in walks my ex-wife with a suit and looking like a million begging the social worker for more money so that she could buy my poor child who can't eat or wear good clothes the necessities. All the time, my daughter shows up well-fed and in designer jeans. I thought to myself, who is this woman going to kid? Well, she did some good kidding, due to the fact she now wants my inheritance to go toward the back support that is due. This is obscene to me. . . .

It seems that fathers must get in arrears to prove they can't pay the high amounts awarded in the first place. Then and only then does a judge reduce the amount and attach a wage lien so that the mother can receive her money. Working with the Bureau of Support Enforcement is like talking to a brick wall. . . .

As to the quote concerning owning a house, swimming pool and a new car in your letter from Dec. 27, I see no reason why I should not be able to own my own house and car. I have a new life and want to give the best for my new family as well as my daughter. My ex-wife has purchased a new trailer, a new car and wears clothes that I couldn't afford. My daughter has never been refused usual things while with me. . . . If she is refused at home, it's not my fault. . . .

It seems some "Deadbeat Mothers" need to get off the support wagon, move on with their lives and quit complaining.

Mark R. Ayres Sr.

Havre de Grace

AFD Volunteers

In reply to Mike Burns' column, "Nagging Questions About Volunteers" (Dec. 20), I would like to provide you with the following perspective of our local volunteer fire department.

The Aberdeen Volunteer Fire Department (AFD) has existed for 102 years and through fire safety execution and personal professionalism has earned the reputation as one of the premier fire departments in the state of Maryland and the eastern United States.

The AFD is sought after by other personnel (both volunteer and paid) for consultation, guidance and expertise in all aspects of fire safety and emergency response. AFD has the best fleet, equipment and facility support that money can buy; however, the personnel that operate and perform the total fire and emergency service provide the invaluable ingredient that protects our citizens.

How does a community become protected by a group of volunteers? Through training, standards and practical

experience. The AFD has a graduated program of requirements that an individual must progress through before putting on the fireman's uniform. Continued training takes place during the career of the volunteer firefighter and after the career, the firefighter usually takes an active role in the administrative support side of the fire house. . . . Aberdeen has an outstanding fire company built on uncompromised standards and professional excellence. . . .

We need to let this volunteer institution continue. I encourage you to walk the halls, ride shotgun, talk to our firefighters and experience the volunteers who make our fire department the best. In conclusion, we in Aberdeen believe that volunteers are the heart of our community and our fire department is the best in the state.

Ruth E. Elliott


The writer is mayor of Aberdeen.


I enjoy reading Michael Olesker's columns. Unfortunately, however, I cannot share the mild optimism of his recent column, "Crowded Mall Can Only Hint at Better Times" (Dec. 20). Far more representative of our country's plight, however, is the incisive KAL cartoon, "Charge," showing amob of wild-eyed credit card brandishing shoppers on a buying spree.

Like so many up-the-ladder immigrants, my wife and I did well because we worked hard, lived within our means, and did not subscribe to the motto: "Borrow as you go!"

Continued fiscal irresponsibility, indolence and a declining work ethic are bound to lead this once great country into bankruptcy and decadence. What a shame, really . . .

Gunther Bienes

Havre de Grace

'Secrets' Value

As a dedicated health care professional, parent and community activist, I want to applaud all efforts in support of "Secrets."

Waivers are in place for parental discretion, which allows individual families to elect not to view the play. It makes you wonder how a few loud extremists try to control the majority. Is this America? . . .

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