Is Murphy a role model for mothers?There are in-depth...

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May 27, 1992

Is Murphy a role model for mothers?

There are in-depth questions regarding Murphy Brown being a role model as you discussed in your editorial of May 19.

Will Murphy in single parenthood be an inspiration to unwed mothers to control their own lives and build self-esteem?

Will Murphy in her new role of raising a child alone be a role model for working moms whether wed, unwed, divorced, widowed, separated or never wed?

These are tough ones to answer. In a one-half hour sitcom for TV the ending is always happy. The good always defeats the bad. It seems that we have a tale of unrealistic happenings. Of course, for entertainment this is how it should be.

Life is not entertainment.

Can/will Murphy admit to the guilt feelings of leaving her child while she goes to work?

Can/will Murphy be allowed to bring her child to the work place? This may be a dream for many working mothers but does a child belong in a work place? Is the situation fair to the management and to the child? This would also mean that Mom is now holding down two jobs at work.

There has been much written about supermom. Let's get the facts straight: stress, high blood pressure, heart attacks, ulcers. Mom moved into the workforce and negative factors developed fast.

Some of the negative facts are the physical ailments that have begun to enter into a woman's world. Let us not forget the guilt feelings: the guilt of never enough time with children. I recently read advice to give a child at least 10 minutes quality time -- ten minutes of privacy. What does the child or parent get out of this? Nothing. This is barely enough time for a hug and kiss: certainly not enough time for communication to be of real value.

Delinquency, drug and alcohol addiction have all grown by leaps and bounds since women have entered the work force in large numbers.

I doubt Murphy Brown is the role model for single motherhood.

There is time for togetherness. There is time for communication. Instead of television, try a quiet time together. Learn to interact, learn to listen and have fun together. Work on strengthening the loving and caring for each other.

Congratulations to Murphy, but she is not the "norm."

Congratulations to all moms who do their best (whatever it may be) every day minute by minute.

Teresa Marcus


What about guns?

It was very disappointing that the only connection Vice-President Quayle could find between television and violence in our society was Murphy Brown's baby.

What about the glorification of guns and killing which occurs on so many prime time and "children's" programs? What about TV ads which encourage kids to buy guns and make believe they are killing each other?

Wouldn't these images be more likely to foster violent attitudes in children and teens than the image of an independent woman bearing a child on her own? If Mr. Quayle really wants to take on Hollywood, he should take it on where it counts: on its glorification of the gun.

Vincent DeMarco


Keep kids in school

It seems to me there needs to be more incentive to stay in schools, which will promote better education and possibly decrease the number of teens getting pregnant. Getting a better education may provide an "out" for these teens who feel they are stuck in inner-city locations like those near my home.

Money could be shifted from the gifted and talented programs to the programs that may assist children who have less of a chance of bettering themselves. Also revenues that are raised through taxing cigarettes and alcohol could be put toward better education.

Hopefully, with the increase in education, street use of drugs and alcohol would fall, as well as the teen pregnancy rate. With this result, taxpayers could plan on spending less money on rehabilitation for addicts as well as fewer dollars for children and families on welfare.

We need to look at the education children are getting now because this is where our future is.

Kristen Smulsky


Get involved

Nothing will improve the educational system and a youngster's success in school as much as parental involvement.

Parents should be aware that nothing will help their children more than an active interest in all phases of their children's academic endeavors. American education cannot improve if parents do not play a major role.

Unfortunately, many parents are not actively involved in their children's education. This must change if indeed American education is to improve.

John A. Micklos


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