Your letters are the lifeblood of this column. It's time for the readers of this column to have the last word .
"Your column about those 'accommodating' people who keep the rest of us hopping, trying to guess what they really want from us, cracked me up because I saw my submissive, indecisive, oh-so-accommodating, oh-so-powerful mother in every sentence," wrote a Dallas wife and mother.
"But when I showed it to my husband, he said, 'The woman in this article sounds a lot like you.' I stopped laughing. If seeing a problem is half the battle, I'm half way toward changing my ways. Thanks."
And a Van Nuys, Calif., reader wrote:
"After six years of counseling, I've finally changed my ways. Being honest and straightforward not only works better, it feels better, too."
A recent column about the rights of child-care providers brought a flood of letters, as well.
"Why does the same person who wouldn't dream of barging in on anyone else without an appointment grab my arm at the end of the day and insist that I talk about her child while 20 other parents are arriving to pick up their children?" wrote a Burlington, Vt., professional.
After a column about the increasing number of grandparents who find themselves raising their grandchildren -- often in poverty and without even the minimal help that foster parents receive -- many of you wrote about your own grandpar
"My grandmother was a saint. She took me in when no one else wanted me, worked three jobs to support us, and always found the time to give me what I needed -- whether that was a word of love, or a well-deserved swat on the behind," wrote a Brooklyn, N.Y., grandmother of seven.
And a 66-year-old man in Kansas City, Mo., wrote: "I owe everything I am to the grandparents who raised me with soft voices and gentle hands. I tell them so often, although they're both in heaven now."
You shared horror stories after a column about the rights of pregnant women in the workplace, on the other hand.
A New Jersey reader wrote to say that her boss responded to her impending motherhood by saying he had nothing to say to her, "then neither spoke to me directly nor gave me a single piece of work to do for six solid weeks."
But a Baltimore reader wrote in with the last word on this subject. "What a pathetically small list of rights working mothers have in this country compared to other civilized countries," she wrote.
"It's time to find out where each of our elected officials stands on this issue -- then vote accordingly in November!"
Questions and comments for Niki Scott should be addressed Working Woman, Features Department, The Sun, Baltimore 21278.