Teach children that it is better to waitSex is definitely...

the Forum

April 22, 1991

Teach children that it is better to wait

Sex is definitely a hot issue that parents of teen-agers must come face-to-face with today. But parents' permitting teens to have sex in their own home is absurd! ("Some parents permit teens to have sex inside home," Evening Sun, April 4).

"Sixty percent of teen-age boys and 50 percent of teen-age girls have had intercourse," according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute. I can assure you that this is true. I am a young adult myself, and I feel these figures are steadily rising. With all the problems and peer pressures that teen-agers face today, parents argue that "sex in the home is a way for them to protect their children." As Dr. Ron Taffel says, teen-age sexual activity is "a real dilemma for parents," and I agree with him. All parents want to do what is best for their children but, by allowing teens to have sex in the home, the parents are confusing the teen-agers

The first thing parents should try to do is talk freely about sex with their children. Sex is not a bad word, and neither is the word virgin! If we teach teen-agers that it is all right to be a virgin and we make them aware of the consequences of sexual activity, like pregnancy, then we may be able to lower the percentage of sexually active teens. The best thing that parents can do for their children is to listen to them. Really listen to what your teen-agers say and be open with them about sex. Teach children that it is better to wait!

Lisa A. Burch


Aid and Israel

There's an old saying which goes: "The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good folks to do nothing." But, in the case of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, almost the opposite is true.

The single thing which permits Israel to refuse to negotiate an independent, unarmed Palestinian state on the West Bank and in Gaza is multi-billion-dollar U.S. aid. All the U.S. needs to do to bring Israel to the peace table with the PLO is to threaten, seriously, to cut off that aid if Israel refuses to negotiate in good faith.

The mere existence of such a Palestinian state, developing mutually advantageous, economic relations with Israel, would cut the tap root of Arab state military aggression. If the Palestinians are qualitatively satisfied with their peace and independence treaty, how could other Arab states continue to justify their rabid anti-Zionism?

Perhaps then, Arab nationalism ` no longer diverted toward destroying the Jewish state ` would address the overwhelming need of the Arabs to overthrow the tyrannies under which they all live; perhaps then the Arabs would establish a union of free, democratic societies using their oil wealth to advance their common standard of living.

L But perhaps that is just what our own government most fears.

A. Robert Kaufman


Disdain for poor

George Bush certainly showed his true colors when he made inferences which led the Kurds to believe that the United States government would aid them in ousting the regime in Baghdad. Instead of aiding in a military action, the Kurdish people were left to twist in the wind.

I suppose the simple explanation for Bush's inaction is that the Kurds are a poor people who have nothing to offer, unlike the obscenely rich oil barons in Kuwait.

It should be abundantly clear to anyone by now what George Bush is about. Much like his predecessor, he has nothing but total disdain for poor people, regardless of what country they occupy.

Kenneth W. DeVaughn

Middle River

Problems, solutions

The euphoric sense of renewed power that swept the country after our decisive military victory in the Persian Gulf has been displaced, for many Americans, by a feeling of impotence as we fumble for a response to the tidal wave of misery that followed in the wake of the war. A lesson this nation has not mastered is that it is easier to assume responsibility than to lay it down.

It may be that the European community is better suited to heading up relief measures. After all, its approach to international relations is totally distinct from ours. Americans believe, with frequently unfounded and unrealistic optimism, that every problem has a solution. The more skeptical European attitude is that every solution creates another problem.

Myron Subotnik


3,000 strikeouts

On opening day the Orioles drew 50,000-plus fans. Why would the new stadium being built have a seating capacity of only 47,000?

Bob Crooks


Gulf vs. Vietnam

As a retired Air Force master sergeant, I wholeheartedly supported the Persian Gulf war. However, as a veteran of the Vietnam conflict, I feel, and I'm sure I'm not alone, that the military personnel who served in the Middle East did nothing more than we did.

We did not choose to serve in an unpopular war; we went with pride to defend this country.

Baltimore Sun Articles
Please note the green-lined linked article text has been applied commercially without any involvement from our newsroom editors, reporters or any other editorial staff.