You want your kid to grow up strong, disciplined, so the world can't hurt him. He's got to be tough enough to handle any situation and come out a winner. So, no sissy mollycoddling and lovey-dovey stuff from you. He's got to learn to toe the mark or suffer the consequences. The sooner he toughens up, the better off he'll be.
Will he? Sounds like you're training an attack dog, not raising a human being.
Of course, you want your child to become an adult who makes the most of his life. And, of course, you don't want the world to hurt him. But, realistically, the hurts will come.
Right, you say, that's exactly why he's got to be tough.
Tough? Or resilient?
Resilient implies rolling with the punches -- and bouncing back. It requires flexibility and solid self-esteem.
Toughness implies stubbornness, rigidity. It requires a closed mind and a hard, brittle shell with no inner security to back it up.