Every now and then, a suiter gets it exactly right

Judy Markey

November 07, 1990|By Judy Markey | Judy Markey,United Feature Syndicate

THIS IS ABOUT asking a girl to get married. Because, even in the '90s, some guys just do it in a real Melt Your Heart way.

We're not talking about the gargantuan, splashy skywriting way, or the banner across the expansion bridge way, or the singing gorilla telegram to the office way. We're talking about the Melt Your Heart way.

Like Brian did. Because even though it's 1990, Brian did something you haven't heard of in years. Brian asked The Dad first.

"I don't know," says the divine-looking 32-year-old thoughtfully. "I just always knew I would. I don't know anyone who ever has, but I always figured this was the way you did it."

Even so, Brian felt a little uh, not scared, but a little anxious about it. "Well, it's not like I'd ever done anything like this before. And I'd only met the man twice.

"Plus," he says with a sheepish smile, "I'd already gone and ordered the ring. So I was definitely counting on an OK from him. Not that I was asking for permission exactly. But I wanted his acceptance. And I really wondered what I'd do if he said no."

Of course the first yes in the long line of yeses Brian had to get was to the agreement to meet for dinner. "I think her dad knew what the deal was, but he was real busy and asked if we could do it in a few weeks. I would have had a real hard time waiting that long and kind of indicated that to him. So two days later we met."

Brian showed up at the appointed restaurant, a mere 20 minutes early. "The thing was, I had seen a deodorant commercial on TV the week before where this guy was doing the same thing. And the guy was late, and the father looked real irritated. No way did I want to risk that look from him."

But from the moment his not-quite-signed-up-father-in-law walked through the door, Brian had this feeling it was going to go OK. They sat down and ordered a drink, small talked, "but, we both knew why we were there," says Brian. "So I didn't wait too long before I started talking. I told him about this dream I'd always had of sitting on a park bench with my arm around my wife and our two kids on the grass before us. I have had this dream for years. But that it has only been in the past six months that the face on that woman finally became clear. And I told him that it was his daughter's face, and that I wanted to be with Paula for the rest of my life. And then I stopped and I sort of held my breath, and I waited to hear what he'd say."

And The Dad said just what Brian wanted to hear. The Dad said, "I think that's wonderful. Just wonderful." And he also thanked Brian. He thanked him for taking this extra step. For taking the time, for being so thoughtful, for making him such a part of it all.

"Boy, I really recommend asking the dad," says Brian. "It was real satisfying for me, and for him, and I know it was for Paula too."

Oh yeah. Paula. What about Paula? Because she had no idea that this had gone on. Brian didn't want to tell her until he completed Part Two of the Proposal Plan. Which happened five days later. After he had scouted the city for a park bench. Not just any park bench, but the perfect park bench. Because Brian wanted to tell Paula about the park bench dream in just the right setting. Which he did. And then Brian asked Paula to be his wife.

And what do you think she said?

Yeah, even in the '90s some guys just do it in a real Melt Your Heart way.

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